Therapy for Overthinking, Pure O & Burnout in Ontario & the Inland Empire
I provide culturally affirming online therapy throughout California for the driven professional, the new dad, and the adult quietly drained of the energy to keep it all together. If you're ready to break free from intrusive thoughts, perfectionism, hidden guilt, and constant pressure, I can help.
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The Trap of Avoidance and Control
When you're experiencing anxiety or stress, you might try to fix, manage, or outthink it. You might hold yourself to impossible standards, stay busy, replay the same mistakes, and try to control every outcome so nothing goes wrong. When that pace burns you out, your body and mind can switch off, leading to procrastination or hours of mindless distractions to get relief.
The problem is that fighting your own thoughts can leave you absolutely drained.
Using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), we work together to reduce the urgency of intrusive thoughts, let go of exhausting mental debates, and stop unhelpful coping habits. If pressure comes from family expectations, past emotional wounds, or feeling like you’re never enough, we can use an attachment-focused approach (EFIT) to look beneath the surface, address quiet shame, and help you feel more secure.
About Rafael Cazares
Hi, I'm an anxiety therapist based in Ontario and the Inland Empire. Before becoming a therapist, I spent years working in IT, so I know the professional grind, corporate pressure, and desk life firsthand. As a Latino clinician, first-gen college grad, and dad, I understand how pressure ties into family sacrifice and the heavy expectation to always have it all together.
In my practice, I use evidence-based methods and create a warm, supportive space. Together, we focus on practical ways to step back from racing thoughts and explore deeper emotional roots. This helps you quiet your inner critic, reconnect with loved ones, and take meaningful steps toward the life you want.
Areas of Focus
Anxiety and stress look different for everyone. I focus on helping you deal with the main ways that trying to avoid or control things can take over your daily life:
Overthinking, Intrusive Thoughts & Pure O: Racing thoughts that won’t stop, distressing or taboo intrusive thoughts, replaying conversations, getting stuck in "what-if" loops, and feeling worn out from checking your thoughts to ensure you’re not a bad person, partner, or parent.
Perfectionism, Burnout & The Inner Critic: Feeling like you can’t make mistakes, always having to be the reliable one, dealing with imposter syndrome, and struggling to rest without feeling guilty.
Appearance Obsessions & Stress Habits (BDD & BFRBs): Overthinking how you look, checking the mirror often, or turning to habits like skin picking or hair pulling when drained or overwhelmed.
Men, Fatherhood & Coping Patterns: The quiet panic that can come with becoming a parent, feeling irritable at home, pulling away emotionally, and working through private coping habits (like problematic porn use or zoning out) in a space free of judgment or shame.
Relational Trauma & Bicultural Guilt: Always trying to keep the peace, carrying the quiet weight of family sacrifices, and feeling strong guilt when setting boundaries, saying "no," or putting your own well-being first.
Who I Work With
Driven Professionals & Overthinkers
Support for those dealing with repeated thoughts, intrusive what-ifs, work burnout, and the physical habits or perfectionism that take over when overwhelmed.
Men & New Fathers
A supportive, down-to-earth space for men balancing the pressure to provide, adjusting to fatherhood, emotional shutdown, and unwanted coping habits.
Adults Healing Family Trauma
Space for the "family fixer" to unpack boundary guilt, childhood emotional wounds, and old coping habits through deep emotional repair and EMDR.
Practice Logistics & Getting Started
Step 1: Free 15-Minute Consultation
Step 2: Simple Online Intake
Step 3: Begin Virtual Sessions
Format: 100% Telehealth with secure, HIPAA-compliant video across California.
Language: English & Spanish (Servicios disponibles en español)
Hours: Monday – Thursday, 4:00 PM – 8:00 PM PST.
Insurance: In-network with Blue Shield of California and Optum (UnitedHealthCare). Superbills and private pay available.
Ready to Get Started?
Starting therapy takes courage, but you don’t have to go through it alone. Let’s connect for a free consultation and see if online therapy in California is right for you.